My Husband Doesn’t Support Me…

I was scrolling through Facebook some time ago and I saw this post from a woman who wanted to start a business…

But her husband didn’t support her.

(I posted this in our support group to inspire our team members as well)

Yeah it’s probably tooooo smaaaalll to read so I’m going to copy and paste the post here…

“I don’t care if you don’t believe in me, I believe in me”

This is what I told my husband after a heated argument. I can’t blame him for doubting me. It’s my 3rd failing business. He works 2 jobs to provide for us, while I was managing our food business.

Having 3 kids is no joke. We were in more than $310,000 worth of business debt as a result of me signing for a 4 year lease, suppliers, restaurant equipment etc. I was hoping for him to bail me out though I know I was the one who caused it.

We are due for bankruptcy and I know it was my fault.

If there was one thing that this taught me was FOCUS of finding solutionnot the problem. What we focus on grows so if we will focus on solution we will more likely to find solution.And true enough, I found a way to pay.

I started selling online, from clothes, bags, jewelries. Even services; websites, Facebook management (mostly sourced out). Instead of avoiding my creditors. I negotiated and ended up paying $280,000 in 8 months.

Well, that was 4 years ago and we will be celebrating 18 years of marriage in a month.

My takeaway:

If your spouse doesn’t support you (or a love one) continue to work on your vision. They are not suppose to…
Entrepreneurs don’t ask for support, we WIN support as the vision slowly materialise.
If they don’t support you, don’t take it personally, the vision was given to you it’s not for them to see.
Opposition is a test of commitment, if you were swayed by the first blow of rejection then your vision is not strong enough. You are not determined enough.

The biggest mess in our marriage, actually became of MESSAGE. Literally. I have written a book about it and self published in Kindle. Everything works together for good, even our worse experiences.

Today I found this drawing on our fridge. It was done by my 7 year old Bernice. Pretty sums up the relationship we have in our household. A huge WIN!

Did I regret my decisions? Nope. One of the biggest lessons in my business life. I treat the money I lost as a tuition fee to success.

It’s either you win or you LEARN.

Ok (back to me)… I can feel this in my bone, sometimes when I want to do something, I don’t always get the support that I want from my family or from my friends.

But I didn’t let that stop me from doing what I need to do.

I’m glad I did what I did and started my online education business back in 2018 because if I didn’t… we wouldn’t have helped children along the way in their education.

My wife and I wouldn’t have been able to support others to support themselves. It has been a crazy journey and we have a long way to go.

Here’s a short video on how it’s like working together with us…